List of Porn Thinking Errors

This list is supplemental to the post entitled “Porn Thinking Errors: What Are You Thinking?”

Which thoughts create more desire for porn?

What thoughts do you have that are not on this list?

Which ones reduce your desire for porn?

You might have different existing porn thinking errors going on in your brain. Start to notice what they are. Write them down.

Come up with your own alternative thoughts that work for you. These are just ideas to help you get started.

Look toward the bottom of the list for some entertaining celebrity contributions.

Errors Possible Alternatives
Looking at porn is part of life. Life goes on without porn.
It’s normal to look at porn and masturbate. I am my own man who makes my own choices. The most important person’s approval for me to experience is my own approval.
I’ll miss out if I don’t use porn. I’m missing out on life when I do use porn.
Porn and orgasms are meant to be enjoyed often. Life can be even more enjoyable without porn and regardless of the number of orgasms I have.
I need to have 21 orgasms a month to reduce risk of prostate cancer. Porn and masturbation this often is a cancer to my life in other ways now.
I can’t possibly go longer than __(period of time)__ without having an orgasm.- I can go as long as I want without an orgasm with no negative consequences.
Porn and masturbation are just part of being a guy. It’s a rite of passage for a man to live without porn and masturbating.
Once I’m “triggered” I’m powerless. I am powerful any time I choose to be.
Life would be terrible without porn/masturbation/sex. Sex is a small part of all the amazing things about living a human life.
I’m embarrassed to say that it’s been _(period of time)_ since I last had sex. Whether I’ve had sex or not and when I had sex last have nothing to do with how good I feel about myself.
Life without sex wouldn’t be fun. It is possible to have fun in life without any sex.
It isn’t healthy for you to go too long without having an orgasm. It isn’t healthy to make myself beholden to some imaginary sex-schedule pushed on me by society.
My marriage must not be great if I’m not having sex at leas _(frequency)_. Marriage is so much more and sex is not obligatory but the icing on top of the cake.
I’m weird if I don’t look at porn. I am whoever the hell I want to be whenever I want to be it.
When I have an itch I need to scratch it. I can let an itch come and go without scratching it at all.
The only way to get rid of this uncomfortable urge is to look at porn/masturbate. Urges are nothing but vibrations in our body that can come and go without any porn or orgasm.
I can only go so long without porn before I give in. I can choose no porn/masturbation for as long as I want in a controlled way.
I can’t get close to an orgasm and not have one. It’s bad for me. I can stop at any point along the way to orgasm and be completely okay.
It doesn’t hurt anybody. It hurts me first and foremost.
Porn helps me get through life. Porn/masturbation have a net negative cost on my life.
Porn provides relief Porn invites more overall burden to my life and is the opposite of relief in the long run.
It’s relaxing. The consequences of porn make my life less relaxing overall.
Normal people who are in control can look at porn/masturbate. It must mean something’s wrong with me. I will control this even if it means removing it from my life completely.
It’s fun. It’s way more fun to be free of this.
It relieves stress. I experience more overall stress in my life from choosing porn.
It turns off my brain. I want to be in my life and not escape it.
It’s hard to stop. It’s easier than I think to stop.
It is a struggle that requires will power and I just don’t have the energy to do it. I always have the energy to direct my willpower in a way that creates success.
When I am tempted it means “evil” has come over me. Desiring porn means I have a human brain that is good act learning and is working by design.
I shouldn’t even be tempted by this. The fact that I am tempted by this shows that I have a healthy human brain, that is good at learning, and is doing what it has learned to do. And I can learn something new.
I shouldn’t do this. I choose not to do this.
I can’t do this. I prefer not to do this.
I need to know what she looks like naked. I’ll be better off if I never see her naked.
I wonder what she looks like naked. My brain just wants to see anything that will give a big dopamine release and I don’t need to reward this urge.
She is so hot. Attraction is a choice.
I’ve been curious about her before, now’s my chance. I don’t need any more chances to see random women naked.
I didn’t see enough of her/porn. I have seen enough porn to last a life time.
I can’t go on without this part of my life. My relationship with porn is complete. I have moved on now.
I need to take advantage of this chance to look at porn. I’ve had more than enough already.
I already told myself I’ll look later today and I can’t go back on that. I have the choice in every new and separate moment.
It is really important that I have access to porn and look right now. Viewing porn and access to porn is not important.
I need porn. I do not need porn and I don’t want porn.
Just a little I already decided I prefer no porn.
I deserve this. To really take care of myself I choose no porn.
This could be a great time to look at porn. I’ve decided no time for me is a good time for porn anymore.
I need a sexual outlet like this. I can abstain from porn and masturbation and go without sex and nothing bad will happen.
I’m less of a man if I’m not having sex in some way regularly. What makes me an amazing man has nothing to do with my sex-life.
It’s embarrassing to be a virgin. When I have sex and who I have sex with is not the most interesting thing about my life.
If I don’t have regular sexual release of some sort I’ll act out in perverted ways like those catholic priests. I can choose when to have sex or not and be a healthy man.
It’s fine to view porn sometimes For me, I decided I prefer no porn any time.
Just this once. I choose, for my long-term benefit, no more porn including right now.
It won’t matter. My commitment to myself matters much more than porn.
Cheating on my protocol is fun. It is more genuinely fun to be engaged in the full human experience and to want to be.
After this time I will stop for real. I already stopped for real.
It’s not worth trying because I don’t have any control over this. Controlling this is a skill that I am learning and I am always worth the effort.
Abstaining from sex is hell. My life can could be amazing without any sex if necessary.
Cutting back is painful. I get great satisfaction from cutting back and sticking to my goals.
Restriction is not normal. I’ve decided that my “normal” is no porn and masturbation.
I should be able to look at porn as much as I want. I always have the option to look at porn as much as I want I just choose not to.
It’s not fair that I don’t get to look at porn. It’s not fair to myself if I keep escaping my life for porn.
“You know that look women get when they want to have sex? Me neither.”  -Steve Martin What do we make it mean when a woman says “no”? Does it have to mean something bad about us?
“I want to tell you a terrific story about oral contraception. I asked this girl to sleep with me and she said ‘No.’”  -Woody Allen What if a girl saying “No,” no matter where, when, or how, has nothing to do with us and everything to do with her in that moment?
“My wife is a sex object – every time I ask for sex, she objects.”  -Les Dawson Women are not sex objects. Does it have to mean something bad about our marriage when she says “No”? What if nothing has gone wrong at all?
“See, the problem is that God gives men a brain and a penis, and only enough blood to run one at a time.”  -Robin Williams I can always have the capacity to control my brain AND my penis, and all of me, no matter what, all at the same time.
“If God’s got anything better than sex to offer, he’s certainly keeping it to himself.”  -Sting The most fulfilling, enriching human experience is full of natural pleasures/activities/experiences, only one of which is sex. And what if it’s actually a minor one.
“I asked my wife, ‘On a scale from one to ten, how do you rate me as a lover?’ She said, ‘You know I’m no good at fractions.”  -Rodney Dangerfield My worth/status as a man has nothing to do with what someone else thinks of me in the bedroom.
“Give me chastity and continence, but not yet!  -Saint Augustine Now is the best time I can think of to honor my values and give this gift to my future self.
“I told my girlfriend that unless she expressed her feelings and told me what she liked, I wouldn’t be able to please her. So she said, “Get off me.”  -Garry Shandling The most enriching, intimate, healthy, two-way sexual relationships involve one or both people saying “No” whenever they choose to.
“The big difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money usually costs a lot less.”  -Brendan Behan We wouldn’t see sex as costly if we didn’t make it mean our self-worth was on the line. I get to choose in my mind whether my self-worth is on the line or not.
“Women have all the power because women have all the vaginas.”  -Dave Attell I am always the only one with the power to choose for me; no woman or person will ever have this power but me.
“There are only three things women need in life: food, water, and compliments.”  -Chris Rock Every woman is an individual who gets to choose what she wants to do and who she wants to do it with. Make a list of all the qualities that make her amazing and have nothing to do with sex, whoever she is to you in your life.
“Seems to me the basic conflict between men and women, sexually, is that men are like firemen. To men, sex is an emergency, and no matter what we’re doing we can be ready in two minutes. Women, on the other hand, are like fire. They’re very exciting, but the conditions have to be exactly right for it to occur.”  -Jerry Seinfeld Sex is not an emergency and is not urgent to me just because I’m a man.
“What I really need is a woman who loves me for my money but doesn’t understand math.”  -Mike Birbiglia My worth as a man is tremendous and has nothing to do with how much money I make or how many women want me.
“We have reason to believe that man first walked upright to free his hands for masturbation.”  -Lily Tomlin Porn/Masturbation/sex do not define my existence. I am an individual with depth, dignity, and strength. I choose to live by values that are honorable and highly evolved.
“Sex is like air; it’s not important unless you aren’t getting any.”  -John Callahan Air is important to my survival. Sex is not. (Obviously, sex is important for survival of the human race. But it is not important to your survival. Either way, you get to choose how important you make it.)

Some of the porn/sex thinking errors from celebrities are alluring and masked with humor.

But being aware of what new beliefs you buy into is important to your success in stopping looking at porn and masturbating.

Likewise, becoming aware of old beliefs that you are consciously or unconsciously buying into right now, is crucial to your success.

What you think affects all the results you currently have in your life.

As a grown man now, nobody is responsible for what you think except you.

In this case, I like to call it response-ability.

How do you choose to respond right now?


Not sure how to get from what you currently believe to what you want to believe? Check out my How to Stop Looking at Porn Program by scheduling a free mini-session with me. What are you waiting for? Click here.

For a free jumpstart on learning the skill of not looking at porn check out my guide:  “How to Stop Looking at Porn.”

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