Our Story. Pornography, Marriage, Success, and Healing. Part 9 of 9: We are Life Coaches

That picture is Lindsay and me hiking on our 13th Anniversary.

His

I’m a Certified Life Coach. I coach Husbands and Fathers in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints who want to stop looking at pornography but don’t know how.

I can teach you why you have this problem. It’s for a good reason. How you have learned and been taught has gotten you where you are. I can teach you why it’s hard to stop. There’s a good reason for this too.

I can teach you how to stop looking at porn by reducing your desire for it. We’re talking inside-out. Outside-in has gotten you where you are. I’ll show you what your brain is doing and how it actually works. This way you can work with the existing design instead of forcing something you think should work.

People think they just need to change their actions. I will show you how to change your thinking to get new results. Not positive affirmation crap. I’ll show you a process that actually works and empowers you instead of making you feel worse.

If you are like me, you’ve been successful in so many other areas of your life. You have self-control in so many other ways. I will show you how to rewire your brain for success in stopping looking at porn.

You are strong in other ways so why not in this way? I will show you how to access your built-in power and strength to put yourself back in the drivers seat with this habit.

I’ve been there. I have sat through church meetings and priesthood sessions shaming myself in ways that do not help. I know how to work through my beliefs in a way that moves me forward and helps me progress instead of stay stuck.

If you are ready to get unstuck, I would love to work with you. If you want to reclaim your confidence and learn to trust yourself again. If you are really wanting to stop looking at porn, let me show you how.

Her

I coach women whose husbands look at pornography. I will help you get to a place of peace regardless of what your spouse decides to do. For so long you thought you couldn’t get that relief unless he changed but what if that wasn’t the case? Life is too short to “wait out someone else’s behavior” to be happy.

Your husband is looking at other women. You think it’s your fault. You think if you were different he’d stop. If you were taller, thinner, curvier or whatever it is, he’d look at you instead of them.

You’ve been so strong for so long. You’re used to pushing forward, pushing feelings under the rug. You’re tired. You’re tired of babysitting him. You get triggered when you don’t know where he is.

You think thoughts like:

  • I didn’t sign up for this.
  • Why can’t he just stop?
  • Why does he lie?
  • Why does he never let me use his phone?

When I went through my struggles I was ashamed, powerless, depressed, and traumatized.

WHAT IF IT WAS POSSIBLE TO FIND PEACE REGARDLESS OF HIS ACTIONS?
I SWEAR TO YOU, IT’S POSSIBLE. Have you heard of post-traumatic growth? It’s the real DEAL.

I am the wife of a someone who looked at porn. I figured out the key to get to a place of peace, relief, confidence, and connection with self. This was done w/o regard for him stopping or not—I did it for myself.

I look forward to the future. I sleep better. I healed. I lost the extra weight I was carrying.
Did I mention I use these tools in parenting? Game CHANGER.

I accessed that dreamer side of me and am living my dream life in France. Sound too good to be true?  It’s not. If you are a human with a brain you can do this. What if you could move on from this? What if you could reclaim yourself and live your best life? What if you could find a normal that blew your mind?

I’ve got your back, with coaching I’ll show you how to trust yourself and have yours.
My SESSIONS ARE ONLINE. YOU DON’T HAVE TO DRIVE TO AN OFFICE AND WORRY ABOUT WHAT THE PEOPLE THERE ARE THINKING ABOUT YOU.

You can have a call with me, wrapped up in your blanket with a kitty on your lap!
See lindsaypoelmancoaching.com to schedule a consult. I just opened up 20 spots for this month!

Our

Our relationship today is better than it has ever been. We have found peace and joy in our marriage. We still get annoyed here and there, but we own our individual annoyance as our own (and not caused by the other person). As parents, we use these same tools.

We still have fears and experience negative emotions, but we practice accepting them knowing that it is part of our journey. We’re excited about our future together! We work on our own stuff and come together and enjoy each other. We’re both becoming the most authentic versions of ourselves.

Danny runs a 12-week program for men that want to stop looking at porn and don’t know how. Click here to schedule a free consult. See the bottom of this post for your free guide on “How to Stop Looking at Porn.” 

Lindsay runs a program for women looking to find peace in their marriage even when their husband’s look at porn. She will show you how to find peace, healing, and learn to thrive again. lindsaypoelmancoaching.com

I want to offer you this free guide on “How to Stop Looking at Porn.” Click here.

There are so many amazing men who get stuck on this issue. Start seeing new results immediately.

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